New Years Resolutions 2013 Update
Jan. 14th, 2013 01:13 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kay_gmdFirst I'm declaring amnesty for last week. My mom was in town, and my routine was totally off.
On the other hand:
This week I started off today with 10 minute on the bike. Hopefully I'm back into routine.
In exercise that don't count I've started a game of chase with Kosh. I run and hide behind a tree, that either wouldn't hide him, or/and I poke my head out, and he chases me. It gets both of us some exercise, and helps with the fairly regular goal of tiring Kosh out in prep to getting him to sleep.
I've mostly been thinking on the judgement thing:
I got some really good suggestions on facebook:
My SIL suggested that hanging around with people who aren't judgmental would help. I think this must be true, although so far my observation is the counter example. I had my annual physical (since it had been since 2010) last Monday, and the doctor who was generally pleasant and professional, got to talking about driving in traffic, and how awful (other) drivers were. I found myself agreeing and exclaiming about how bad drivers were. On further reflection, I'm pretty sure I've been that driver for many of the complaints discussed. So I was actively judgmental in the conversation, but I rescinded internally afterwards, and put some thought into it. I think the raised awareness will be a benefit to me.
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wondermentalist suggested cutting myself some slack in that we can't really be harder on ourselves than we are on others.
I think she's right, but I don't want to lower my standards for myself. One of the things that Methodists are exhorted to do is move continually to perfection. It's always resonated with me. On the other hand I can look at what I'm judging myself on, and examine if it does reflect moving towards perfection.
At the same time as far as external judgement however this is still useful, especially since I know thatwondermentalist has some high standards for herself, is to assume that everyone has similarly stringent, but differently framed standards for themselves, so while I'm looking at someone and thinking OMG I can't believe they're using 5 paper towels for that, they're turning and looking at me and thinking OMG I can't believe she's letting her rinsed cup drip for hopefully more important standards.
More pondering, and a LOT more practice necessary.
No movement on the career front although one of my co workers is testing my judgmental resolution, and making me more likely to move forward on the career resolution. I really miss our old attorney, and not just because I liked her. She was much easier to work with, and apparently had an amazing store of knowledge, and she was better about making sure she knew what she was talking about before she started talking, and somehow this didn't involve long waits for her to start discussing an item. I know the new guy is new to this position, he only started in August, so he's even newer than me, and I know that we pile a lot on our attorneys, and I can't even begin to fathom the complexity of the law involved, so I'm sure that he's very intelligent, and a good attorney. I've just been spoiled by a line of attorneys who I worked better with, and I know I'm at least as hard to work with as he is.
On the other hand:
This week I started off today with 10 minute on the bike. Hopefully I'm back into routine.
In exercise that don't count I've started a game of chase with Kosh. I run and hide behind a tree, that either wouldn't hide him, or/and I poke my head out, and he chases me. It gets both of us some exercise, and helps with the fairly regular goal of tiring Kosh out in prep to getting him to sleep.
I've mostly been thinking on the judgement thing:
I got some really good suggestions on facebook:
My SIL suggested that hanging around with people who aren't judgmental would help. I think this must be true, although so far my observation is the counter example. I had my annual physical (since it had been since 2010) last Monday, and the doctor who was generally pleasant and professional, got to talking about driving in traffic, and how awful (other) drivers were. I found myself agreeing and exclaiming about how bad drivers were. On further reflection, I'm pretty sure I've been that driver for many of the complaints discussed. So I was actively judgmental in the conversation, but I rescinded internally afterwards, and put some thought into it. I think the raised awareness will be a benefit to me.
wondermentalist suggested cutting myself some slack in that we can't really be harder on ourselves than we are on others.I think she's right, but I don't want to lower my standards for myself. One of the things that Methodists are exhorted to do is move continually to perfection. It's always resonated with me. On the other hand I can look at what I'm judging myself on, and examine if it does reflect moving towards perfection.
At the same time as far as external judgement however this is still useful, especially since I know that
wondermentalist has some high standards for herself, is to assume that everyone has similarly stringent, but differently framed standards for themselves, so while I'm looking at someone and thinking OMG I can't believe they're using 5 paper towels for that, they're turning and looking at me and thinking OMG I can't believe she's letting her rinsed cup drip for hopefully more important standards.More pondering, and a LOT more practice necessary.
No movement on the career front although one of my co workers is testing my judgmental resolution, and making me more likely to move forward on the career resolution. I really miss our old attorney, and not just because I liked her. She was much easier to work with, and apparently had an amazing store of knowledge, and she was better about making sure she knew what she was talking about before she started talking, and somehow this didn't involve long waits for her to start discussing an item. I know the new guy is new to this position, he only started in August, so he's even newer than me, and I know that we pile a lot on our attorneys, and I can't even begin to fathom the complexity of the law involved, so I'm sure that he's very intelligent, and a good attorney. I've just been spoiled by a line of attorneys who I worked better with, and I know I'm at least as hard to work with as he is.