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Prop 30
Energy Availability

I’m hearing that one of the complaints about Prop 30 is a concern that the grid won’t have enough power for all the electric vehicles.

The major problem with power availability is not a lack of supply so much as a lack of supply if we all use it at once. The current grid is mostly set up well for the regular use of the population as far as supply, but it assumes we’re not all going to use as much energy as possible all the time. Most of the time that works fine, and is far more efficient than making sure there is energy to cover that maximum use. It’s like having 4 people living in a 2 bathroom home, you could move to a place with 4 bathrooms so that no one ever has to wait, but that’s a much more expensive home so we can accept sometimes waiting and pay less for housing.

Utilities know when the high use times are, they try to discourage use then with higher rates, and sometimes flex alerts. If charging adds significantly to those peak times it could required increased production, but even then it would take a huge number of vehicles for it to be a significant factor.

(I’m talking statewide, there are probably some local areas where this would have an impact sooner, which is one of the reasons you should talk to your utility if your planning on installing a charger.)

With few exceptions electric vehicles don’t need to be charging during high use times. We just saw that with the week of flex alerts because of the heat. In fact some electric school buses actually provided electricity to the grid when it was most needed.


A massive increase in use of electric vehicles will eventually mean we need more power overall, but that will take quite a large uptake, and the grid has dealt with this before, when air conditioning became more common, and personal computers started being in many more households as examples.

Transportation does take a significant amount of energy, and if we want to reduce pollutants in the air, reduce greenhouse gases, and/or move away from fossil fuels electric is a good solution, and eventually we’ll need more unless we cut back on other uses, or gain in efficiency. The CPUC, and utilities are already planning for this increased need.

Electric vehicles can also help with incorporating more renewables into the system. One of the problems with wind and solar is that the energy is available when the sun is shining or the wind is blowing, but not all the time. That’s great when the grid usage matches up, but means there’s renewable energy we don’t use when there is more available than would be used, and we use something else (in CA mostly natural gas with some nuclear) when there’s demand that isn’t met. Electric vehicles are giant batteries on wheels, and for most of us they sit around most of the time. If they’re integrated into the grid they can help match grid usage to renewable output.

The first step of this is smart charging where vehicles are charged when there’s a lot of electricity available, and don’t charge when there isn’t. This can be done now with most chargers, or even just a smart plug, and communication.

There’s exciting potential for a situation where the utility or your home, if you’re plugged in at home, could pull electricity from the battery when there is less electricity available this can minimize peaks in need, and save on energy bills. Even small cars have batteries bigger than most home battery storage. For instance my 2013 Leaf has a 24 kWh battery, and that’s more than 2 energy walls.

It would also allow for powering vital things during a power outage, and even moving power from a place where the power is on to somewhere it isn’t if necessary (this is not efficient as a regular thing, but could help in emergencies or for specific situations).

This all means that while long term a population level switch to electric vehicles will mean a need for more electricity the ramp up will be slow, and more flexible than current usage.

I can’t imagine Prop 30 increasing electricity use to a point that the utilities aren’t ready for.

Also with the ZEV mandate in place the vehicles will be coming anyway these funds will help make that easier for those that would have trouble switching, and/or have trouble charging.
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First I'm going to describe what I had done.
I had a double mastectomy, and reconstructive surgery to a flat chest with nipple resizing and movement.
I'm very happy with the results. I'm particularly impressed with the look of the nipples, I hadn't really thought about how different they would be, and am impressed with how well they seem to belong.

I'm still working on scar reduction, and stretching, but otherwise I'm all healed.

EXERCISE/STRETCHING

I started late on this because my doctors office was very much more focused on not lifting (and thus reopening wounds) than on possible stretching, and regaining range of motion.

Once I got the approval to stretch I was told to do:

Snow Angels: This looks like a good video for it, but I just did it while standing
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eEbAKsgc3Zw

Wall climbs
https://youtu.be/kuJjYd-rdww

I thought there had to be more to do, so I found this video, and got permission to follow it as long as I was comfortable with the exercises that had been described. I obviously started much later than described in the video.
https://youtu.be/Ii84exRSdVU

For all of these listen to your body it should feel like a mild stretch, not pain.

WOUND CARE

BINDING
There was a binder I was sent home in. It's important to keep the area tightly wrapped to minimize liquid retention. It covered the area a corset would, so much more than the area needing compression. I found a wide ace bandage much more comfortable. I was worried about messing with anything for quite a while, so I think I was 3 weeks out before I tried this. I suggest switching earlier, but it's a good idea to check with your medical team.

FIRST 2 WEEKS

So for the nipples there was a suction machine that was creating a really tight connection, and it involved like an enveloped section on my chest with a water proof barrier covering enough of my chest that I didn't have access to it to clean or re-dress.

So I mostly needed not to get that space wet. This meant sponge baths for the first couple of weeks.
It also involved 2 tubes from there to machines (each about the size of a paperback book).
I found a belt of pockets really helpful for this. I tried a shirt with pockets for drains, and they worked, but swung around which was uncomfortable. I have one of these, and it's great. (mine's brown)

https://www.blue-moon-designs.com/product/xl-blue-chenille-greek-key-pocket-belt-high-quality-festival-belt-plus-size-pocket-belt-extra-large/143?cp=true&sa=false&sbp=false&q=false&category_id=2

There were also the 2 tubes coming from my sides with drains. The bulbs on these were lighter, and less of a problem with the shirt, but since I already had the belt on, I mostly used it. The bulbs needed to have the liquid in them measured and removed twice a day. More if they fill up.

Brian was super helpful with this. We were provided with jars with measurements on the side. We dumped the liquid in the toilet, and hand washed the jars. This continues until there is a very low amount of liquid regularly, and your doctor takes them out.



AFTER SUCTION
Once that was removed I could shower, but not have the spray directly on the chest, and got to start doing more. Regular showers without worry about the direction of a shower around when my drains were removed.

On the nipple area

Xeroform on the healing area, and neosporin under gauze. Re dress daily.
I got this Xeroform
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09T4R8C87?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details

but if you find one that includes more per package that's probably better. For this size I found cutting it in half diagonally gave a triangle that covered the healing area.

for gauze
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00KJ6NIJ0/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

This continues until the nipples are completely healed. I just got the approval to stop yesterday.

On the scars
This is suggested for 6 months. This is to minimize the scar rather than to avoid infection or such, but it does seem to help a good deal.

Gently massage aquaphor healing ointment into the scar, and then conver scars with scar sheet. The instruction I got was to do this 3-4 times a day. Apparently you can increase benefit by doing it every 2 hours, but realistically especially once I got back to work I do this once a day twice on a good day. This is to minimize the scar rather than to avoid infection or such, but it does seem to help a good deal.

In general I've been providing Amazon links for clarity, I'm not a huge fan of Amazon, but I don't know a better source for these supplies in larger amounts.

Aquaphor was easy to get at my local drugstore, I got the jar and don't expect to run out any time soon.

For scar sheet, do not use the pack of rectangles like this
https://www.amazon.com/Aroamas-Professional-Silicone-Scar-Resulting/dp/B09BZX26PK/ref=sr_1_7?keywords=scar+sheet&qid=1661624195&sprefix=scar+sheet%2Caps%2C176&sr=8-7

Nothing against this brand, just this form the scars for this are long, so you need to use several, and it's just a lot more work, and higher likelihood that they'll fall off.

This is the one I'm using, it stays better than the other couple I tried:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09Q6FB85S?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details

Scar sheet can be reused, as long as you can keep it clean, and flatten it out. When you wash it you don't actually want it to completely dry, moisture helps it stick.

Non-binary

Aug. 17th, 2022 08:03 pm
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So, I mentioned that I was going to take some time while recovering from surgery I wanted to think through my gender, and it seems like it was mostly taking the idea that had been sitting in my head and decide that it felt right.
I’m using Kay for my name, and they/them/theirs for my pronouns.
I’ve been surprised by how excited I am by how I look, and how I hope to look once I’m done healing.
I didn’t realize how much I didn’t like my breast. Without them
I thought it was just regular dissatisfaction with bodies that many girls and women experience.
I suspect that my strong urge to try to not stand out, and not make myself a problem had me not paying attention to what was true for me.
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I am aware that I will freqUently catch myself going along with what I think others want, often this is something I don’t even notice until afterwards I’m uncomfortable or unhappy with what haas happened.

This means that if I know I have a big decision coming up I will avoid interacting with others about it. That lets me feel more confident that a decision is more true for me and less bent to fit what I think others want. That is helping me get a better idea of myself, and less regret in the future.

But it also gives me a feeling of hiding that I’m not thinking is good for me, and means I miss out on wisdom and support from my amazing community.

It also means that when I do express what’s going on people may feel like tHey missed something earlier.

I really appreciate my community, and don’t want folks feeling left out, so it may take some work and thought to figure out if this is something I want to build communication skills around this.
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So with my double mastectomy coming up I will have a few weeks of recovery time where I am not supposed to lift more than 10 pounds, and for a chunk of it can't lift my arms above my shoulders.

During this time I'm generally supposed to avoid anything that (in comfortable temperatures) would make me sweat, and also not shower (showers can start back up once I get the drains removed). On the other hand I am supposed to get up and walk 5 times a day.

Brian has plans to take much of this time off to help, but I don't want to wear him out, and he may have jury duty. Also if possible I'd like to send him with Joshua for the planned fun in Gualala for July 4th.

So I need to as for help. Both advice, and more in person help.

For in person help this is what I think I need:

  • Meals I'm generally an omnivore, but lactose sensitive, the doctor says I should aim at eating a high fiber diet with lots of fruits and vegetables I tend to like strong flavors, but Joshua has some she doesn't like, so when she's around foods where the strong flavors are on the side, or not too strong are better. (she's away for about half of the time I'm in recovery). Home made is not a requirement.
  • Hair washing (I'm planning on cutting it short, but it will still need to be washed, and I won't be able to reach it)
  • Laundry
  • Dishes (we have a dishwasher, but loading, unloading, putting away would all be helpful)
  • Walking buddies I'm not sure how long walks will be, likely longer as we get further from my surgery date, but I'm more likely to remember to do it if I'm doing it with someone.
  • Also a counter top microwave. I love ours, but it is over the range, and I won't be able to use it while I can't lift my arms (this is also part of the issue with laundry, although there weight of a full load is also likely an issue) If anyone has one to loan for a few weeks  it would be appreciated. I understand I'm likely going to want to eat several small meals rather than few large ones, so reheating seems likely to be a frequent thing, and the toaster oven heats up the house more than a microwave.
  • When Brian isn't available it seems like it would be particularly important to have a couple of in person visits to make sure I'm okay, and eating and walking.
For Advice:
  • What have I missed as far as in person help?
  • What are good shows for entertainment? My to read list is long, but I don't know if I'll have the attention to read all the time, so audio entertainment, or tv/movies could be helpful (we have Netflix and Disney+ so for shows it's easiest if they're available on one of them)
  • What is a good way to protect my chest and drains from the cats? I imagine I'll be spending a good deal of time on the couch, which has a plus 10 cat attracting aura, and I like cat cuddles, but it seems like they might be a problem near recovering wounds and drains.
  • Is a recliner, or any other kind of furniture particularly helpful? We have a couch, and a couple of comfy chairs, but someone suggested a recliner, which we don't have (or really want to get one of the cats likes to pee on furniture), and it made me wonder if one, or something else might be helpful.
  • Is there anything that you find helpful for sponge bathing?
  • Anything else you think might be helpful
  •  



 

My Health

Jun. 7th, 2022 07:15 am
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Hey all if I've been more distracted in the last few months the world has certainly presented plenty of reasons why, but this is one I haven't mentioned.

In January I went in for my annual mammogram, after mom's breast cancer I figured I ought to be good about getting checked.

They found a group of calcifications that merited a closer look.

So I went in for a more focused mammogram and ultrasound, which indicated a biopsy.

The biopsy indicated that I have phase 0 breast cancer. This is a very early stage where the cancer is believed to only be in the ducts of the breast, (ductal carcinoma in situ, high-grade).

I've also done genetic testing, and I do not have any of the currently know genetic markers for cancer.

Because my 1st surgeon thought a lumpectomy was the best approach there was also an MRI and a second biopsy ( I have 2 groups of calcifications both in the right breast).

After further discussion and research I have decided to go with a double mastectomy. This is the lowest risk option which is especially important for my mental health. I know I was really worried until my surgeon clarified that chemo wouldn't be necessary in any of my treatment options since that's what was worst for mom.

It will also allow me to have a chest that fits my image of myself better. I've been feeling like woman isn't the right label for me gender wise for some time, and just letting it simmer in the back of my head as something that I could deal with later, and this process has made me realize that the aspect of not having breasts is important to me. I think I fall somewhere in the non-binary space, and hope to spend some of the time I'm off work recovering from surgery further exploring what this means for me.

My surgery is scheduled for the end of June, and I will be off work for the month afterwards recovering, although I expect to be well enough to go on our planned trip to Legoland at the end of July. (I expect I won't be doing rides, but should be able to handle walking around taking pictures and lego building.)
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Ponderings on the Prodigal Son
We were at church this Sunday because they started up children’s choir today, and they were doing a thing about the garden.

The message was on the prodigal son.
A
s is frequently the case the focus was on celebrating the return, ang the conflict with the brothers, but it got me thinking on a couple of things.

First, was thinking about how this is something we do as a society. We’re quick to jump in and help when there’s some event or emergency that we can do a quick fix for, but we’re not good about maintaining a situation that doesn’t cause the event/emergency in the first place, and honestly, we usually don’t keep up the help up until the event/emergency is done.

So the father is quick to welcome the son back and celebrate his return, but there’s no sign that he’s addressed whatever pushed one son away, and has the other one resentful.

Second, was relatedly thinking that we usually focus on the sons, but the dad is the one who set up a system where neither of his sons is happy and that a good parent could have found better ways to support both of their children and help them to develop a better relationship. This seems kind of like the church that wants to keep members, but isn’t responsive to the people it hurts.

This brought me to another look at the prodigal son. The story says that he took his inheritance and squandered it on reckless living (English Standard Version). What if this kid was queer, and ‘squandered’ their inheritance on being their true self, and then, finding that they couldn’t support themself, returned to the closet to be able to eat and have a home, and what the father is celebrating is the return to conformity.
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I had this in FB, but expect it'll  be easier to find here if I want it later. Originally posted 5/3/2011 (gender references and name preference corrected here)

 

bodily fluids day and other fun

Joshua is doing well.  She was 13lb 6oz 24 in. at her checkup Wednesday before last.  She's noticing the world around her much more, interacting with toys a bit, and babling up a storm.  She's also just been moved to the next diaper size up.

 

In cloth diapering, the way we're doing it, you fold the diaper into thirds hotdog style, put that in a liquid resistant diaper cover, and put a paper liner on top of the diaper.  It actually works really well most of the time.  In the past week or 2 I'd been noticing some side leakage where it was caught by the cover (usually), but not the diaper, so I'd already looked into the next size up, discovered that the switch is generally around 3 months (Joshua is just over 2), and decided to get them anyway.  I hadn't switched to them yet, because it didn't seem vital until yesterday morning.

 

After her first morning feeding (having changed her just before the feeding) I was burping her, and she was sounding bubbly.  It's actually fairly common for her to poop while eating, so I didn't think much of this beyond it'll be time to change you soon.  I was burping her sitting on my leg.  So I look down to discover that she's pooped up the back of her shirt, and it has just started running down my pants leg.  I think I caught it before it hit the chair we were in, but I wasn't sure, which caused the stupid mom question of the day yesterday.  (There was a crease between bottom of chair, and arm of chair right in line of the spill).

 

So she got a bath, I got most of a shower (she started fussing before I quite finished, but the obviously important parts got cleaned)  We got clean out fits.  In changing her again, still that morning, she'd leaked a little bit on his outfit, so I was changing her into another one when she burped up all over the one she wasn't fully into yet, and my shirt.  More changing and wiping down of people.  The rest of the day was less notable on the mess chart, but she was more than usually burpy.  I think she caught Brian and Renee, and probably me again.

 

I did decide that this was a good week to make the mommy support group.  I've missed the last couple of weeks mostly because of laziness, and a lack of a concrete idea of how to get there.  I went with the P to the 42 to the 211, which worked well.  It would have worked better if I hadn't caught the 42 with the field trip of 5th graders returning from the capitol (it still worked, but it made the bus more crowded, and running late, the driver called ahead and convinced the connecting buses including my 211 to wait which was great).  It was a good session, and I may now have a carpool/play date buddy.  I put serious thought into walking to the 42 stop instead of adding the P line which was the only one I had to pay for (my yolo pass works through the end of the month), but I decided that that was further than I wanted to walk with upwards of 14 pounds of baby strapped to my front, and I didn't want to deal with stroller on bus.

 

In general I'm enjoying Josh at this age.  I love that she's interacting more and smiling a lot.  She's not usually so generous with her bodily fluids (I actually looked up in the don't panic your child isn't dying book in case she might be sick, and it said that even if she was all I could do was make sure she got plenty of fluids).  I feel like we're getting a better feel for her moods.  I can usually tell if she's really in need of something or just not willing to go to sleep yet even though she's tired.  The other new quirk is pre-teething.  I'm reasured that it could still be 2 or more months before she starts getting teeth, but she's periodically drooly, and likes to gnaw on fingers.  I'm working on transferring this gnawing to her banana toothbrush.

 

Also notable she and we made it through her first weekend away from home.  We went up to Gualala for Easter, and aside from disrupting our sleep schedule it seemed to go well.



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In general the trip to visit the In-Laws went well, and was enjoyable, but one topic got me thinking.

The In-Laws were defending stereotypes. It came up win my MIL commented that my family would be upset that she microwaved water for tea, and I pointed out that this was a racist stereotype. But my FIL was really adamant that stereotypes helped make sure he interacted with people properly.

And we went back and forth, and I don't think we convinced them, and they certainly didn't convince us.

But it got me thinking. In therapy Friday we were talking about how tools can be useful in some situations but not in others. This was around my need to feel in control, but it occurred to me that this might be a similar case.

That for some people stereotypes can be useful (I'm not sure it does more than allow people to feel more confident in their understanding than anything else, but that could seem like a benefit), but if a tool harms so much more than it benefits it's time to find a different tool.

Like we used to drill tunnels with poorly controlled dynamite, it was a useful tool at one time, but we have better tools now, so insisting to use poorly controlled dynamite would seem foolish.

The other example that has been rolling around in my head is chemotherapy. This is a tool that causes a great deal of harm, but it can save lives so the benefit there can outweigh the harm.

As near as I can tell there is no amazing benefit that outweighs the harm of stereotypes, but I can see a not particularly culturally aware white guy thinking it is. I'm just disappointed.

I think it was harder to hear especially this weekend in the middle of the Derek Chauvin trial, right after the killing of Daunte Wright, and Adam Toledo, and the killing and beating of Asian women. I know they don't see the connection, but I can't think what I can do to help them see it.
 

 

 


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As my longer term friends may recall I spent many years being a bad driver, while putting a ridiculous number of miles on various vehicles. I think the last of my traffic infractions was before Joshua, but definitely years ago.

I have a lot of experience being pulled over.
I have had tickets for speeding
Fix it tickets
Failed to stop tickets
Registration out of date tickets
Warnings
and at least 2 accidents that involved police.

In the registration case my registration was a couple of years out of date it would have been reasonable for the police to assume I'd stolen the car. (I'd just been moving a lot, and the relevant paperwork hadn't caught up with me.)

I have never been asked to exit the car. I like to think I'm generally polite, but I imagine I was not calm and polite in every occurrence. Many of you are likely aware that I'm not the nicest person to be around when I'm running late, and I've gotten better than I used to be.

It never occurred to me that I was in danger of anything more than an expensive ticket.

I'm apparently not threatening enough to merit a requirement that I keep my hands visible, that I exit a vehicle, that I get shot.


The racism that means I'm perceived by police as less threatening than Daunte Wright and any of the souls here https://sayevery.name/ NEEDS TO STOP!

I don't have a silver bullet. I know that it is going to be hard, but it needs to be done.

There are things we know we can do.
  • Multicultural education starting in kindergarten, and going up through required professional training
  • Decriminalization of 'crimes' that are disproportionately persecuted based on race
  • Making sure trials and discussion about law enforcement killings focus on the killing. The victim is not on trial, even if the person killed was a criminal the law requires that they have their day in court.
There are also things we can do to reduce harm:
  • Training to minimize use of force by law enforcement
  • Minimizing lethal options for law enforcement
  • Screening to catch internal bias before law enforcement officers are approved to use lethal weapons.
  • Equipment changes like
    • make sure the activation for a taser is different than the trigger for a gun so that if someone thinks they have a taser in their hand the movement to activate it won't accidentally shoot a gun.
    • make sure that the non-lethal options are worn on the dominant side
Societally, we would all be safer if there were fewer guns on the streets. Law enforcement would legitimately have less to fear if it wasn't reasonable to assume that any interaction with someone could involve a fire arm. That might make law enforcement less likely to use lethal force.


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Thank you for all you do to make our state a wonderful place to live. Please continue this work by upholding standards for UC healthcare.


Please support SB 379. This will make sure that:

UC health contracts are explicit in ensuring that patients can receive inclusive and comprehensive services at all facilities when seeing a UC provider.
Californians are provided with the same high level of care, whether they are at UC Health medical centers or seeing a UC doctor at other facilities.
UC healthcare providers are able to provide the full range of healthcare services to their patients, including reproductive and gender-affirming care.

My daughter is transgender. We had been using Dignity Health as our healthcare provider, and when she let us know she wasn't a boy we knew we needed to get her covered by a different healthcare provider. Because I work for the state I was easily able to switch her to UC Davis Health. We feel sure that she will get the care she needs there, but we want to make sure that is solidly committed.

Currently we know that the UC has partnerships with Dignity Health and we know that they don't protect women and trans patients as well as the UC does. Please make sure that the UC maintains the high standards of inclusivity.

Healthcare is vital. Let's keep it something everyone can access.

Letter 4

Mar. 4th, 2021 02:30 pm
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As you know voting is an essential part of our democracy!

Please do what you can to support and promote the Voting Rights Bill.

This is good for out country. People are more excited about voting than they have been since I've been in decades. If we can protect voter's rights we can turn those first time voters into every time voters, and help our country best represent our populous.
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So I've been posting about my results with Conserta, and I got asked why I sought treatment.

I'm assuming this is why did you think you might have ADHD.

So I've been having trouble with focus at work for some time, I know in January 2020 when I started therapy I listed concern about focus at work as one of the things I wanted to work on.

With attention to history I can see it as a problem much further back. In elementary school I had trouble with grades because of incomplete work because I'd forgotten to do it, or lost it, or forgotten to turn it in.

In secondary school I benefited by falling in with a group of friends who were high performers, and so I had to work super hard to seem like I fit in. Since I'd been outcast in elementary school I was highly motivated to fit in once there was a chance for it. We were still a nerdy unpopular group, but we were a group, and that was a big move up.

I decided in early elementary school that I was going to be a teacher. That plan stuck through college, and multiple attempts at becoming a teacher including all the class work for a teaching credential and teaching or student teaching in 3 different schools. While substitute teaching I realized that one of my problems with teaching was an inability to be consistent on classroom management.

Eventually I gave up on teaching, cast around for several years, and found work that I could do around my issues.

I also noticed the issue with consistency with parenting, and am really motivated to make that better.

The way focus at work has shown up is that I'd get a task that I knew I should be able to do in a given amount of time, and set myself to it, and notice half or more through that time that I hadn't made significant progress, then I'd slap together the product as quickly as I could and turn it in sometimes even early but not as well as I felt it should be done for fear that if I didn't get it turned in now I'd forget and just not finish it. This happened enough that quality of products is something I was working on with my supervisor.

This was a problem for day to day work, but much more so on things that needed to be done regularly, but not urgently, and even worse on bigger projects where I knew they needed to be done some time in the future. Really if the due date was more than a week away my brain would file them as not important today, which wasn't a bad idea except that I wouldn't reliably pull them out again until the due date.

Generally while this was a problem I was working well enough most of the time and I was able to buckle down and make myself focus when there was an urgent task. These come up periodically, and the second to last one, I struggled, and it made it take longer than necessary, and the most recent one I didn't seem able to hit that better focus at all.

On the not work front we'd been looking at getting Joshua diagnosed with ADHD for a couple of years, friends with kids who had ADHD, or who worked with kids with ADHD seemed to think it would be worthwhile to look into, and she was getting frustrated with problems related to focus. This past summer she was diagnosed, and as we went through the process and especially as we learned how to help her the things we were learning seemed to apply to me.
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Please don't push standardized testing. I question the value of testing in general, but my understanding is that the intent is to compare schools, and make sure schools are doing their best. That is valuable in normal times. This year is not normal times. This year testing data will be completely off, and will not be useful to evaluate schools. Teachers, school boards, parents, and school staff are putting out a great effort to get students safely back in the classroom. If we manage to do that in this year it would be a travesty to throw away the time we've worked so hard for on testing that won't provide useful data.

Please do what you can to stop standardized testing this year, and seriously consider the value of the testing in the future.
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I went hunting for this and am putting it here so that it's easier to find. I'm also trying to update gender references.
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Labor description mainly for my memory

Tuesday 2/22

Wake up 10:30 ish Water leakage (it took a while for me to ID this)

chat with mom more leakage call hospital

noonish call birthing team

Get ride to hospital (Thanks Bob!!)

Water definitely broken Decide to induce started cervical softener and penicillin

Brian and Gretl arrive wave 1 of the birthing team No contractions yet we play cards and have silly conversation. Gretl is an amazing quartermaster, and support, also while my mind is on food, te hospital food was surprisingly good. If you need to go to a hospital, and will be eating there I suggest Woodland Memorial.



Evening I send Gretl off to get some sleep and Brian off to get dinner (the hospital food is good, but only for the patient, and the mass of amazing snacks was not designed nor expected to cover meals.



Sonya arrives. More conversation with I thin more of a pregnancy focus, since she's expecting.



Brian gets back. Still no contractions, so I send Sonya to our place to get some sleep.



Brian and I get some sleep.



10:30 latest dose of drugs and first contraction. Back to sleep.



End of monitoring (2 hours after each dose of drugs) nurse tels me contractions are at 6 min apart. I feel a compulsion to check for myself.



2ish I am convinced and call Guildmistress (last wave of the team I'd told her not to come up last night since things weren't supposed to start until morning, and she has a little girl at home) since she had the best idea of what this might mean, and has the longest to go.



Some cuddle time with Brian.



Call rest of team.



Some time laboring in tub as the team arrives. Exiting tub involves a fit of chills so I get in bed under blankets.



Contractions escalate.



It becomes evident that back labor is painful. Contractions begin to involve convulsions and rolling around to try to relieve the pain. It is suggested and I try laboring on the labor ball (like a balance ball). I'm told the baby doesn't like that, which translates to his heart rate goes down when I contract on the ball. Back to the bed pain gets worse. I ask for drugs, at first tentatively. The second time Brian makes sure I am listened too. They present 2 options, and I lean on Guildmistress' mighty brain as my usually low decisive ower is completely flummoxed. we go with the intermediate option a shot of some sort of narcotic. This makes things bearable. Sonya is a reassuring presence, and gracefully captures the scene while ensuring that she is where she needs to be.



Contractions are now bearable, but baby Josh's heart rate is still dropping with contractions, and labor is slowing significantly. The nurses suggest that we go to the big guns of pain relief an epidural. This appeals to my still quite in pain self, but they say many medical things that make my head swim, so I check again with the Guildmistress. She concurs with the nurses, and mentions that the other option would be wearing off soon anyway. I don't know for sure, but I think knowledge of this wearing off issue might have pushed me to the epidural earlier, but I also very much understand incremental steps.



The team is sent out after rearranging the room for the anesthesiologist. He comes in and attempts to do the epidural while I lie down since sitting seems to aggravate the baby. After trying diligently it is decided that I need to sit up. Apparently this makes things easier for him. To make sure the baby is safe they put a monitor on his head. The external monitor was loosing information during contractions. So I now have tubes coming out of my arm and vagina while having one inserted in my spine. The sitting insertion works smoothly and pain begins to subside. At this point I get a catheter, and they insert an IV drip into the uterus to replace the amniotic fluid I think just with saline.



The liquid allows Josh to float off of the umbilical chord the pinching of which was causing the drops in heart rate, and to turn so that we are no longer in back labor. The numbing of the epidural gets me to a point where I have to concentrate to know when I'm having contractions.



Things have slowed down enough that Guildmistress runs off to teach her class, and the rest of us nap.



I'm awakened at 4 by the doctor (this is the first time I notice interacting with the doctor, I'm sure he must have been in previously, but almost everything has been done by the fabulous nurses) I'd put down a preference for a midwife, but apparently they didn't have any on call that day. Tuesday and early Wednesday morning the midwife had been quite helpful.



He says that I'm fully effaced and dilated, and that soon it will be time to push. They delay the pushing to let the epidural wear off so that I will feel the contractions enough to know when to push. This makes sense because currently I can't even feel it when my foot tries to leave the bed, and I'm not at all certain even when concentrating if I'm having a contraction.



I regain some feeling, and it's time to push. This involves Guildmistress on one side and Gretl on the other holding legs up, and Brian at the head helping guid it. I feel vaguely bad that there's not a spot for Sonya to take, but later I'm relieved to see that this means that we have pictures of this somewhat odd scene. To push I'm to grab my thighs pull them open and back, and take my chin to my chest pushing with every part of my body. Along with my team there are the 2 diligent nurses watching cheerleading and stretching the vaginal opening. Guildmistress starts up dance counting to keep me puching at the right times and relaxing at the right times.



At some point in this process I apparently rather severely mess up my neck, but I won't notice that until later.



I get descriptions of a hairy head and good progress, and then I have to stop pushing to wait for the doctor. In fairness this was probably only for a contraction or 2, but it seemed quite insane at the time. Apparently they wait so long to bring the doctor in because otherwise doctors are likely to try to speed things up. The doctor shows up, and a few pushes later Josh is out. I don't know that I really believed it was going to happen until then. (I'm not sure what I thought, but it was just this realization that we had a baby).



She is the most adorable baby girl on the face of the planet. She came out with a slight cone head, and blue in his extremities, but that is quite normal, and since then she has become even more perfect.



Of course if I was a smart mommy I'd have spent this time while she's been napping doing the same, but I wanted to get this down before I forgot.
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First, I want to say I’m impressed. Vaccines are rolling out faster than I expected. I was fully assuming we wouldn’t even start hybrid school until Fall, and now it looks like it might be possible to get some in this spring.

On that note, please, stop saying we need to open schools. Schools are open. Students are learning. Distance learning is open schools, and teachers working their tails off. You can talk about schools being in person, or campuses opening, but schools have been open through the whole pandemic, and it minimizes the hard work of our education professionals to suggest schools aren’t open.
I like the progress you’ve made on immigration reform, but I want to see more on how we’re taking compassionate care of those in our custody because of border enforcement. This is most vital for the children, but also important for adults. We as a country need to be humane in our treatment of all people.
I’m really worried about Texas. I have friends there, and I see the stories of power outages for days, unsafe water, and freezing temperatures. I worry too, about what will happen as things warm up and all that snow and ice melts. Please do what you can to get aid there and encourage more sustainability in the grid and infrastructure for future. I know this is freakish weather, but now it seems like we’d better prepare in case it comes back.
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Congratulations and welcome! The inauguration was fabulous, and I'm so happy to see you take office.
I know there are many many priorities as you start your presidency. I'm writing to make sure one of the first ones is taking care of the kids in cages.
I know that getting those kids connected to parents is part of your plan, and will take time. That is absolutely vital, but I'm talking about something more urgent.
Those kids right now are in unsafe conditions. They were horrific before we knew about COVID, and now they are nearly manslaughter levels of negligence. It is vital that while we hold these children (and try to get them connected to their families, or when that's not possible their new forever home) they are in safe, clean shelters with food, medical care, mental health care, and education.
You are known for your amazing empathy. I know you can't look at those kids, and think that what we are doing is acceptable. I'm asking you to do what you can to protect these kids. It's been nearly 4 years since I've written the President because I did not believe the previous President would listen to me. I trust that you will do better, so I expect to be writing frequently. If we're going to bend the arc of history correctly we all have to push. I hope we can work together to do our part.
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Mainly because I’ve typed it up twice in Facebook and want to be able to find it in case I want it again in response to make America kind again.

 

I like kind, but when are we referring to? We could aim at make Americans treat everyone like they treat cisgender, heterosexual, white men with money, and the “right” religion, but it’s not something that’s been done before, and I’m not sure it’s a kindness to allow people to be ignorant of the harm they’re causing. 


 

Voting

Oct. 9th, 2020 04:17 pm
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So as people are turning in their ballots, and I've figured out what I'm voting for I thought I'd let you know.

Please go out get informed as necessary, and vote. If you're not sure how to vote please feel free to follow this.

President Biden/Harris
I'd love a more progressive option, but I think they'll run the country well, they have a good chance of winning, and Harris, or her staff, responds when I write.

US Representative District 3 John Garamendi
I'm confused by the voting information that included statements for 2 opponents, and only putting one on the ballot, but one of them was pushing guns, and one was focused on dropping taxes without any information related to how we would continue government services so neither of them were getting my vote anyway.

State Senator 3rd District Bill Dodd

Member of the State Assembly 4th District Cecilia Aguiar-Curry

Los Rios Community College District Governing Board Member Trustee Area 4 Kelly Wilkerson
She is amazing. She's a passionate education expert, and brings amazing energy and wisdom to all that she does.

DJUSD Governing Board Member Short Term Vigdis Asmundson she is one of the candidates I was really impressed with when the Board was trying to appoint someone.

DJUSD Board Member Area 5 Cecilia Escamilla Greenwald
I'm so disappointed I can't vote for her I'm 2 blocks from her area. She is an amazing advocate for students and teachers.

County Supervisor 4th Supervisorial District Linda Deos
She's passionate about our community, and has a great history of working to support our community.

City of Davis City Council Josh Chapman

Prop 14 Yes
Stem Cell research has a lot of potential, and funding research will draw experts and jobs to California. The stability of funding from a bond helps give certainty to research that takes years.

Prop 15 Yes
This addresses a problem that's needed to be addressed for years by allowing reasonable increases to the property tax base without kicking people out of their homes.

Prop 16 Yes
Affirmative Action benefited diversity in college and work before, and while there is disproportionate representation in leadership we still need tools to fix that, and this is one.

Prop 17 Yes
Voting is a right of citizens.

Prop 18 Yes
It increases the likelihood that new adults will register to vote, and build the voting habit.

Prop 19 Yes
Seems to be a more equitable.

Prop 20 No

Prop 21 Yes
I don't know whether rent control is helpful, but I tend to lean toward more flexibility for local governments trying to solve the housing problem.

Prop 22 No
Uber and Lyft are employers they need to take care of their employees just like other employers.

Prop 23 No
I haven't heard that the Dialysis Clinics aren't safe, and it seems a lot like the kind of thing that will limit access to Dialysis.

Prop 24 No
It doesn't seem to add more protection, just more punishment and cost. (I know I'm generally a tax and spend liberal, but this one seems like a cost without a balancing income stream and minimal if any benefit.)

Prop 25 Yes
Cash bail clearly discriminates based on funds available. The algorithm will likely also discriminate, but I think it will be better, and will give us more data to use to come up with something better.

Measure B Yes
I tend to think the City Council, or Planning Commission should have the authority to plan the city, so if they're asking to build, especially for building that includes housing I'm going to give it to them.

Measure D No
Again I'd like the hired/elected/appointed experts doing the planning. I don't have the expertise to do it, nor the interest, and the populous has shown itself disinclined to allow building no matter how bad the housing problem gets.

Again by all means do the reading make your own choices, and vote.
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