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On the fuzzy gentler side of sexism:

The other day I did a site visit for work.  It was really interesting, and I learned a lot, and it's always nice to get out of the cubicle maze for a bit.

There was a group of us, and we got done early so we went to lunch.  I was driving, so I wasn't paying much attention to the conversation in the van, but one of my coworkers we'll call Mike had been giving another one a hard time about not trying to get a promotion.  A second coworker we'll call Greg took a moment while the two were away from the gentleman not seeking promotion took a moment to try to encourage Mike to be less pushy, and not give his coworkers a hard time.  Greg and Mike are both in my office while the other guy is in a different office at the commission.

Greg is one of those guys that makes the office move more smoothly.

So since I ended up sitting next to Mike I tried to chip in.  We conversed for a while, and eventually I mentioned that I thought I probably should have moved out of Grants and Loans earlier putting myself in the place of the guy from the other office.

Mike blew this off with  “yeah, but you were building your family" or something like that.  I was in Grants and Loans for 5 years, over that time I got one promotion.  I'll give myself about a year for maternity leave, and recovery from being gone.   Which puts me in almost the same situation as the guy he’d been bugging.

Now, I don’t really want Mike to be pushing me to be trying to get a promotion, but it seems like this is symptomatic of a larger thing where men are expected to push to get to the highest level in their job, and women are not.
This concerns me both for the men who have found the right spot, and don’t want to move in their career, and for the women that do, and for all the people in between.

Doing what feels good for you:

I've been listening to the Zen Parenting podcast https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/zen-parenting-radio/id414414318. ; In general I get a lot out of the podcast, but they spent some time talking about the flu shot.  They had some good ideas about ways to keep healthy, but they said that they did not get the flu shot, and encouraged the listener to do what felt right for them.

If you're living in isolation that's okay, but the point of vaccination is to build herd immunity.  So not taking a vaccine doesn't just effect you it effects your whole community.  That's why people are saying get the flu shot.  We don't really care if you want to get the flu we care that you not become a flu carrier.  [livejournal.com profile] hsifyppah has a much more articulate post on this, but I'm not finding it.

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Date: 2013-03-08 09:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kevinbunny.livejournal.com
One of the 'perks' of my job in the hotel is i get exposed to *everything*. It means my immune system is darned nigh bulletproof, but if something *does* get through, it's a doozy.

As for the sexism thing, I think it's not that a woman cannot be successful *and* raise a family - or a guy for that matter - but time is time, and time spent raising family is not time spent advancing career, and vice versa. Trying to do both at once often winds up doing a disservice to both.

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Date: 2013-03-14 05:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kay-gmd.livejournal.com
That means that you need to get the flu shot even more. You're going to expose more people to the germs if you get it, or if you're just carrying it.

I get that having a family takes time. My point it that I get a pass when the guy doesn't, and that is sexism.
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